We hosted a speaker tonight and while it was totally positivism/mind cure stuff she was cool and did some activities where people shared what they’re insecure about and I could probably relate to every other one and a lot of people talked about being/feeling lonely and like afterwards she asked what we got out of it and like I know that I’m not alone in feeling a lot of the things that I’m feeling and like I do feel lonely a lot and a lot of the reason is because I isolate myself out of fear that people don’t actually like me even though I know that there are several people that are there for me and maybe there would be more if I was more willing to be more open with people but even though I know all this I still feel really lonely and insecure and I like keep trying to tell myself how all these feelings and thoughts are just in my head and I know that but I don’t feel it and I guess I don’t really believe it. And it just hit me right now as a group of people left tredway laughing and whatever and I know them and we’re acquaintances but we’re not really friends even though there’s been a lot of opportunities for us to become friends and there’s a lot of people where I’m at that level with but almost none (maybe just one person?) that I’m really friends with or feel a real connection to and like I could have more and better connections and relationships with more people and I want to but I don’t and I can’t and I’m like at this place where I know all these things about how I feel and how I should feel and what I can do to make myself feel better but I can’t get over my fears to do anything about it and even if I could I wouldn’t know how to and it’s really frustrating.

The (500) Days of Summer attitude of “He wants you so bad” seems attractive to some women and men, especially younger ones, but I would encourage anyone who has a crush on my character to watch it again and examine how selfish he is. He develops a mildly delusional obsession over a girl onto whom he projects all these fantasies. He thinks she’ll give his life meaning because he doesn’t care about much else going on in his life. A lot of boys and girls think their lives will have meaning if they find a partner who wants nothing else in life but them. That’s not healthy. That’s falling in love with the idea of a person, not the actual person.
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And if you call me at 4 am, too sad to even say hello, I will listen to your silence until you fall asleep. If you need to cry I will not wipe your tears away because you are only human and sometimes tears are as close to laughter as you can get and that’s okay. If you get sleepy I will let you drool on my arm and I won’t laugh at you if you snore too loud. If you need to yell so hard that your voice cracks and your knees fail I will hold you up and yell with you. If you get so angry you punch your hands red I will ice your knuckles and tell you that wounds heal both inside and out, and just like the cold that is harsh and burning, I will always be the warmth to soothe you and make you feel better. I will love you.
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Jessica Rey presents the history of the evolution of the swimsuit including the origins of its design, how it has changed overtime and the post-feminist association of the bikini symbolizing female empowerment. She refers to neuro-scientific studies revealing how male brains react to images of scantily clad women versus images of women deemed modest and what the implications of the results are for women in society.

(Note: As the OP, I disagree with Rey’s approach to putting the onus on women to alter ourselves rather than to alter the male perception of women – brain wiring has plenty to do with socialization and if we worked against the culture that fuels men’s objectification of women, women’s clothing choices would matter far less in terms of how men perceive us and determine how to interact with us).

Jessica Rey - The Evolution of the Swim Suit

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